I’ll say it again. DO NOT SETTLE!!! D O N O T S E T T L E!!
Have you heard it before? The statement is simple. Nothing grey… and it’s not about what “you deserve” (which always sounds so selfish and self serving) – more about knowing who you are and what you have allowed to become acceptable. I’m talking about relationships here, of course – though technically this simplistic phrase could be a wise person’s motto. However, I’ve found that most woman (especially young woman) now-a-days settle for “that guy” they think they can save, change or help “be the man he’s supposed to be” (all romanticized by TV and movies) .
Maybe this is acceptable for some – but seriously, once a man reaches minimally 30 (some figure it out at a much earlier age – God bless them!) — he should be a MAN!! And by that I mean a gentleman. And by gentleman I don’t mean the text book definition. Have any of your friends asked you what you want in a partner (key word: partner)? Most will answer with the classic responses: Sense of humor. Check. Attractive. Check check. Intelligent – but not obnoxiously so. Check check check. Financially stable. Check check check check. BLAH BLAH BLAH…
Where did all the “man’s man” go to? I’m not talking about your typical metro-sexual (not that there’s anything wrong with that) or Neanderthal-type guys here. I mean a real fucking man!! Not a guy that agrees with everything you say or want to do. Or worse – the guy that has to have his own way all of the time…But rather, that guy who opens the door – instinctively. Holds out the chair at a
restaurant. Hugs you when you don’t need it, but does it because he can and wants to. Holds your hand in public. Makes you feel secure – not because he’s 6’3″ and built like a hockey player, but because even when he’s 10 thousand miles away you can feel it. Looks you in the eye when he’s talking to you. Treats you with respect. Listens to the words you speak. Asks how your day was. Is capable of cooking a decent meal – with nothing but left overs… Is secure enough with himself to put you in your place when you’re being a bitch. Smiles when he sees you. Makes you feel like you’re on Cloud 9 even when
you’re having a bad day. Acts as if you’re sitting next to him even when you’re a million miles away – and not because he’s “whipped” but because your feelings matter to him and his own sense of well-being. He should enhance your life…Support your goals. Be honest with you on every level. You should be the first person he thinks of when he wakes up and the last person he wants to see before he goes to sleep. This is a MAN. And yes, they exist.
Life is all about choices. You cannot change the past. Own the decisions you’ve made – good, bad and everything in between — once you have accepted that you are responsible for your own path in life, the future becomes so much clearer… Once you’ve accepted the past choices you’ve made you will never SETTLE!